Perfectly Imperfect

Perfectly Imperfect

Embracing imperfections helps you enjoy life more

While we’re all spending more time at home during lockdown and restrictions, most of us are probably spending even more hours scrolling on social media.

So you can’t have helped but notice how almost everyone online is striving to be perfect. Suddenly you can’t post a selfie without filters or enjoy your dinner before showing off your fabulously curated plate of food. I’ve even seen dogs who are better groomed and accessorized than I am!

Thankfully there seem to be a growing number of people online who refreshingly now show their before and after pics.

As in:

Photo #1:  This is what I look like on Instagram, in a pose that’s likely to put my back out any second now, with as many added filters and edits as my fancy app allows. BTW it took me 103 photos to get this perfect shot.

Photo #2:  And this is what I actually look like 5 seconds before or after the perfect photo with my very normal tummy roll, some cellulite and what looks like a double-chin because I wasn’t quite camera ready.

If only these people didn’t feel they still need to show off the ‘perfection’ images, but they’re taking a huge step in the right direction.

But what if you just decided to take a step away from all the competition, all that clamouring for likes, comments, shares and hearts?

Or even better, what if you chose to actually enjoy your life without sharing it with the world?

Here’s how you can start to reclaim your life and become happier.


Stop judging

You can decide right now to stop analysing other people, looking for what’s wrong with their face, their body, their outfit or their life choices. Refocus your attitude, so you stop seeing differences as flaws but merely as something that makes that person unique.

Just let go of the urge to criticise others, and you’ll notice a flow-on effect on how you see yourself and self-judge less.


Accept your imperfections

Wanting to be the best version of you isn’t the same as being a perfectionist.

A perfectionist is never happy with who they are, how they look, or how they’re doing.

Being your best means you work hard, you try, and you don’t give up. But it doesn’t mean you blame yourself when things aren’t perfect, and you don’t take failure personally.


Relax and enjoy the process

Perfectionists tend to trip over every little detail and allow imperfections to spoil their lives. When you embrace imperfection as a natural part of life, it frees you up to enjoy the ride.

Obstacles become challenges that make life more enjoyable. You can slow down and notice all the good things there are in your life.


Adopt imperfection as a way of life

Perfection implies stasis, something you achieve and have to tend. It’s fragile and vulnerable. It puts an end to growth. And then what? You don’t want to stop learning and growing and developing, do you?

Once you make peace with imperfection, you can be a lot more objective about life. Your perspectives changes, and what once seemed overwhelmingly important suddenly doesn’t matter so much.

Imperfection stops being something to avoid at all costs. All experiences become just another aspect of a life lived richly, that help build the person you are continually becoming.

Embracing imperfection means there’s always an opportunity to learn and grow and become a better person.

The best version of you.

12 questions to help clear out & organise your wardrobe

12 questions to help clear out & organise your wardrobe

Is your wardrobe bursting at the seams but you never seem to be able to find something to wear?
Sounds like it’s time for a serious clear-out using these questions as a guide to help you discard some items that just are working for you any more


1. Do I love it?
If you don’t like it, you won’t wear it. Simple. Get rid.

2. Does it fit?
Too big but cost a fortune. Too small but you’re hoping to slim into it. Just not quite the right shape but maybe at a different angle. If it can’t be easily altered to fit you then it’s just not right.

3. Is it flattering?
Colour, shape, scale, style, fit… If it’s just not right then it’s taking up wardrobe space.

4. Do I feel good in it?
If you don’t, you won’t wear it. Time to let go.

5. Is it still in good condition?
Maybe it’s a well worn favourite but so well worn that it’s looking a bit tired. Unless it’s for very casual wear,

6. When was the last time I wore it?
You’ll often hear the advice to get rid of anything you haven’t worn in 6 months. That seems a bit ruthless to me. But if you haven’t worn it in the last 12 months, you’ve been through all seasons, probably a few important events and occasions and you haven’t worn it. Chances are you won’t wear it this year either.

7. Why have I not worn it?
Probably because it’s doesn’t meet one of these criteria. In which case you won’t wear it again.

8. Where/when am I going to wear it?
I’m still holding onto a few (okay, quite a few) pieces from my old ‘corporate’ life. Where will I wear them? Probably nowhere. Time to take my own advice, practice what I preach…

9. Does it suit my lifestyle?
Similar to that last question. Do you have a wardrobe full of glitzy eveningwear but now spend more time outdoors walking the dogs? Keep what you’ve worn recently and let go of the rest.

10. Does it represent me and the image I want to portray?
I’ll write more about this soon but take 5 minutes to think about what you want your image to communicate?
Write down 3 qualities that you would like to convey or project on a consistent basis e.g. stylish, elegant, feminine. Unless, it’s gym gear, if it doesn’t meet those qualities, it won’t project the image you want.

11. Have you a wardrobe full of similar items?
If so, keep the one that has the most ‘yes’ answers to these questions. This will become your favourite (if it isn’t already) so you won’t wear the others.

12. What does it go with?
If you’ve been on the hunt forever for the right shoes, top, skirt, whatever to go with it then it’s just too difficult to wear. Give up and focus on all the other fab things in your wardrobe that are ready to wear.

A few other tips:

Organise your wardrobe in items…skirts, trousers, jeans, dresses, shirts, blouses, tops, jumpers… You can see at a glance what you’re looking for, and also what you’re missing. Even better, arrange these in colours and your wardrobe will really start working for you.

A local alteration service is a great person to have in your contact list. If you don’t already have one, ask for recommendations. It’s important to get someone who’ll work with you, be careful with your clothing and do a quality job. Make a pile of alterations and get them done so they’re ready to wear.

What’s missing?
It should be easy now to see what you tend to buy most of. For most of us, it’s the easy to buy items. Now that you’ve cleared out, you should be able to easily see what’s missing that will help you tie together all the fab pieces that are left. Make a list and treat yourself to some ‘essential’ shopping.

Don’t worry:
A lot of people look at what now looks like a very sparse wardrobe and panic that they have nothing to wear and desperately want to plunder through the discarded piles and hang all the items straight back up again!You weren’t wearing them. You were rummaging through a whole mountain of clothes that just taking up space and weren’t working for you. Now everything that’s left fits you and makes you feel good.

Look good, feel good. Enjoy Gorgeous!

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